The only way I’ve been able to make progress in my life and as a person is not through overactivity. It’s through stillness and measured action. It’s nice to say these things, and even think about them. It’s an entirely different thing to put this approach into action.
For me, putting stillness and measured action to use required a re-working of attention and how I do things. There is no meditation technique or breath exercise that gave these things to me. It was the steady choices I made, usually on a daily basis, that propelled my life and personality in the direction it is going now. This is a holistic approach, because it is at once what you are doing and who you are becoming.
People often say there is some kind of consistency to me, as a person. And I have always wondered about that, because internally I feel like a red squirrel who has taken a liking to light roast coffee beans. But I have taken these impressions and thought about them over the years. And I think that this idea of Doing With My Life is what people are sensing. Here are some thoughts I came up with about this—
1. I see who I am and my life as a coherent whole
2. I make sure the things I’m doing every day are what I want to be doing. This includes things I “have” to do like chores, work, sitting in traffic, expenses, etc.
3. I make my own well being a high priority
Taking care of myself makes the foundation for everything else I do. Moving from an unstressed place, where I feel good, makes me naturally kinder, more helpful, and better at thinking.
But even with these priorities, I’ve found it can be hard to get my life and who I am on a track that makes sense.